How to create a head-turning profile…
Writing a dating profile about yourself can be daunting, so here are a few tips to help you write a profile that will get you noticed for all the right reasons!
First impressions count: Think of your profile and photo as your calling card. This is your chance to create a good first impression, so make sure it counts! Anyone who visits your page will decide whether or not they want to contact you or meet up on the basis of your profile. Take a look around the website to see what other members have written, so you can see what works best. There’s nothing worse than a three line profile that says: ‘I don’t know what to write here. If you want to know anything, just ask.’ This just makes the person sound dull, disinterested and lazy.
Always add a photo: A photo is essential to generate interest from other members, so make sure you add a recent portrait to your profile. It should be a good, clear head-and-shoulders shot, with you looking relaxed, happy and gazing into the camera so there’s eye contact. If you like, add more photos to show some of your different interests.
What should I write? A good profile doesn’t need to be lengthy, but it should contain a couple of paragraphs so other members can read about your interests and pastimes, what’s important to you and what you’re looking for in someone else. Start with a description of you, your personality and your values. Next write a couple of sentences about what you enjoy doing and how you like to spend your weekends. Then write a few lines about what you are looking for in someone else, and the sort of relationship you are after.
Be interesting! To stand out from the crowd it helps to mention what your passions are in life. So if you love classic cars or stock car racing, say so. If you’re a workaholic, a foodie or love your allotment, mention it because it’s these nuggets of information that will resonate with others.
Shout about your good points: Do you have a sense of fun? Are you a good listener? Are you a good friend? If you aren’t sure what your strengths are, ask your friends and family what they think your best qualities are and work from there.
Be honest: Don’t lie about your age, your income or what you’re looking for. If you aren’t honest from the word go, you won’t attract honesty in others and you’ll waste your time with people who won’t be right for you. Equally, someone you like may not want to see you again if you’ve been dishonest about your age, weight or height on your profile.
Don’t procrastinate: The more you worry about writing a ‘good’ profile, the harder it is and the more self-critical you become. So just put pen to paper and see what comes out – and if you have any doubts, ask a close friend or one of your children help you out with it.